Kittens, like children, must be taught how to live in your home, and it's up to you to set the rules with which you're comfortable. Some families are fine with pets on furniture, for example, while others insist that pets sleep in their own little beds.
Once you've set the rules, you'll need to provide your kitten with the means to follow them. For example, if you want your kitten to sleep in its own bed, you'll have to purchase or make an appropriate sleeping place for it.
Finally, you'll need to actively teach your kitten to follow the rules. As with any pet (or person), teaching involves a combination of rewards for good behavior and consequences for undesirable behavior. Patience is key when training a kitten.
Why Do Kittens Misbehave?
Kittens are like babies, feeling the world around them and learning what behavior is acceptable and what isn't through positive and negative reinforcement. Usually, when your kitten misbehaves, it's not trying to be "bad"; it's still in the process of learning how to behave.
Most kittens are happy to use a litter box and scratching post, thus eliminating most of the problems they might otherwise cause. Sometimes, however, kittens seem unwilling or unable to do one or the other. Occasionally, they start using the litter box and scratching post properly and then suddenly stop doing so.
At least 75 percent of kitten or cat discipline involves troubleshooting to discover the reason for the undesirable behavior and then correcting the situations that caused it.
Scratching and Clawing
Healthy kittens and cats should keep their claws, and they do need to scratch. The trick is to keep them away from furniture and other objects. Avoid destructive scratching with a three-pronged plan: providing desirable scratching surfaces, setting the limits, and trimming kitty's claws or using plastic nail caps.
Litter Box Training
Most kittens readily adapt to a litter box, especially if they were raised with a mother cat. Otherwise, it's usually easy to train a kitten to the box. Make sure it's easily accessible, filled with good-quality litter, and cleaned at least once a day. Immediately after a meal, place your kitten in the box. You may have to demonstrate by guiding its paw for a few scratches in the litter, but the kitty will quickly get the idea.
Chances are, if you set things up properly, your kitten will not make mistakes, but in the rare event that it does so repeatedly, poor litter box maintenance may be the cause.
Chewing and Biting
Like human babies, kittens examine everything with their mouths, especially when they're teething. As with toddlers, it's important to keep harmful items out of kittens' reach.
Kittens love to "play fight," and if other cats aren't around to accommodate them, they'll settle for the nearest human hand or ankle, especially if you've encouraged this form of play early on.
Kittens love heights, and many are expert jumpers, hurling themselves upward with little notice as they aim for a tabletop or a countertop.
How to Stop Bad Behavior
There are numerous effective, humane techniques for expressing your displeasure with a cat. One simple option is to keep a spray bottle filled with water handy; give your kitten a little squirt to remind it to keep off counters or avoid scratching rugs, curtains, and furniture.
Provide Scratching Posts
Scratching posts vary in price and style and provide a selection of scratching surfaces for your kitten. One popular and inexpensive option is a corrugated cardboard model. For a variety of healthy scratching options, offer as many scratchers as you can afford and/or have room for.
Trim Your Kitten's Claws
While it's actually harmful to your kitten's health to have it declawed, it's a good idea to trim those needle-sharp claws. Not only will this make destructive scratching less of an issue, but it will also lessen the chance that you'll be scratched by an energetic feline playmate.
Keep the Litter Box Clean
Because litter box avoidance is a major cause of surrenders of cats to shelters, it's important that they're given a fighting chance with immaculately clean litter boxes. Another option is to spray your kitten's litter box with an attractive scent, such as Cat Attract, sold at pet stores.
Be sure there are no underlying health issues, such as a urinary tract infection, that may be causing your kitten to miss the litter box. Your veterinarian should be able to easily rule out this and other illnesses with a simple urinalysis.
Avoid Play Fighting
While play fighting with your kitten can be fun, it can get out of hand. Depending on the rules you choose to set, consider wearing gloves, using toys instead of hands, or simply walking away if your kitten gets too rough.
Ideally, you'll have rules in mind for your kitten before it starts leaping. Which counters, couches, and shelves are fair game? Which are off-limits? A simple training method involves praising and petting your kitten when it leaps onto acceptable surfaces, while scolding and removing it from unacceptable surfaces.